Please use the following questions to aid in your own personal meditation on Ruth 3 as well as for your group discussion.
Remember that as a group you do not have to cover all of these questions. Set a time limit and stick with it! And please don’t sacrifice time for sharing prayer requests and praying for one another.
Discussion Questions for Ruth.
- Introduce yourselves if you do not all know each other.
- Which part of Ruth 3 sticks out to you or speaks out to you the most?
- Hesed love considers the interest of others above your own. What is the biggest obstacle to showing others this kind of love? Who can you begin to show hesed love to right now in your life? And how can you practically in one or two ways begin to show it?
- What difference will “Christ-centeredness” make in a relationship? What’s the danger of making something else a priority?
- How have you idealized or idolized romance in relationships? Has that ever left you disappointed, frustrated and bitter? If so, how and why? What’s the solution?
- For women: How can you strive to be a worthy woman? Is there an aspect of Ruth’s life and character that resonates with you, challenges you, inspires you, etc? Elaborate.
- For men: How can you strive to be a worthy man? Is there an aspect of Boaz’s life and character that resonates with you, challenges you, inspires you, etc? Elaborate.
- What are some prayers you have been asking of the Lord where you sense he might be giving you the opportunity to be the answer to your own request?
- It’s countercultural to say love is a commitment and covenant rather than an emotion and an experience. What have you been learning in your own life about this kind of hesed love, both in terms of receiving it from God and giving it to others?
- How much attention do you give to being attractive outwardly versus inwardly? What do you gain when you’re considered beautiful physically (attractive, fit, fashionable, etc)? What do you gain when you’re considered beautiful spiritually (godly, generous, God-fearing, etc)?
- Has there ever been a time in your life when you felt the Lord was emptying you? Please share. In what ways could you sense he was also promising you restoration?
- What’s the difference between trying to put your hands on life’s steering wheel versus “waiting” on God (Ruth 3:1 vs. 3:18)? Can you share a specific example? How do you begin to rest knowing that God is not at rest?